Boyfriend always looks at me and smiles
You watch as the man you love turns his head, looks her up and down, and his eyes linger just a little too long on her breasts, or her backside. A torrent of questions runs through your mind: Does he want her? Is he not attracted to me anymore? Sound familiar? Take me for instance. I love and adore her.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Why Does He Stare at You So Much
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You watch as the man you love turns his head, looks her up and down, and his eyes linger just a little too long on her breasts, or her backside. A torrent of questions runs through your mind: Does he want her? Is he not attracted to me anymore? Sound familiar? Take me for instance. I love and adore her.
I want to spend the rest of my life with her. But I look. And I am not alone. In an alternate universe where he was single and unattached, he might be interested in her as a sexual partner. Simply put, him looking has nothing to do with you at all. The world is full of beautiful sights — flowers and sunsets, great works of art — none more beautiful than the female body.
The look is really nothing more than that: acknowledging and appreciating beauty when we see it. For men, sexual attraction and emotional connection do not necessarily go hand in hand. We can be attracted to women on a strictly physical level. We can be turned on by women with whom we feel no emotional connection or compatibility. We can be head-over-heels in love, completely devoted to one woman, and still be attracted to other women.
A research study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior revealed big differences in the way men and women are drawn to potential partners. Women tend to be more attracted to men based on familiarity; preferring men who closely resemble their current partner, and rating men more attractive the more often they see them. Men, however, are attracted to novelty.
We are drawn toward the new and different, attracted to many different women, with many different features and body types. This is usually interpreted as being the result of evolution.
You could say that our eyes are hardwired to wander. The natural sexual urges and impulses of men are also aggravated by media and advertising that is over-sexualized. Everywhere we look, we are exposed to sexual images and innuendo designed to sell us everything from cars and cologne to beer and cheeseburgers. While it is normal for men to notice other women, to look and admire, and even fantasize a bit, there is a line of respect that a mature and committed man will not cross.
Looking is one thing, staring is another; and it can be hurtful, embarrassing and offensive. As I said before, I cannot help my momentary reaction when I see an attractive woman. But once the moment passes, I quickly turn my attention back to the love of my life, the woman to whom I am faithfully devoted.
Blatant staring, inappropriate comments, touching, flirting and obviously cheating are all red flags. It is tempting to assume that because the passion has started to fade, your partner is no longer into you, and he is looking around to explore other options. For many men, this natural buzz is often enough to drive all thought of other women from our minds, reducing or eliminating our wandering eyes.
Second, during this intense, new love phase both partners tend to idealize each other, completely overlooking annoying habits and traits.
Even if your partner did check out another woman in front of you, you might be so infatuated with him that you ignore it, or unconsciously block it out. But after a year or two, or three at the most, the honeymoon comes to an end. There is a gradual change in the way our brains respond to our partner, and it changes how we feel and act when we are together.
For him, his old hunter-gatherer instincts kick in as strong as ever, and he finds that his eyes are once again drawn to every attractive woman who crosses his path. And she can no longer remain blissfully ignorant. This was certainly the case for me and my relationship.
For the first year or two, I was so smitten with my beloved that I scarcely noticed other women. It was the first time I had experienced this, and it was a beautiful thing. But when that initial, fiery passion began to cool, my eyes started roaming again. Not because I lost interest in her, but because my brain chemistry was changing. We were entering a new phase of our relationship, and the dynamic was changing for both of us.
Up to this point, a love affair is easy and effortless, as both partners are swept up and carried off by the raging storm of their mutual attraction. But in order for a relationship to survive past this point, it takes real honesty, commitment and clear communication on both sides. A glance does not equal a betrayal.
Remember that he loves you, he cares about you, he is committed to you, and he is still attracted to you.
Of all the women in his life, he chooses to be with you. When we hold our partner to impossible standards, it leads to a never-ending cycle of disappointment, hurt feelings, anger and frustration. No one wins. We have to get real about human nature and sexual desire. There are lots of beautiful women in the world, and you are not the only one that your guy finds attractive. Practice Non-Violent Communication. Express your honest feelings without blaming, shaming or accusing him. If your partner is committed to making your relationship work, he will be willing to work with you in setting some healthy boundaries.
He should make every effort not to make you uncomfortable or other women, for that matter. And most importantly, he should make it clear to you, in both his words and his actions, that he still wants you, and cares for you; he is still attracted to you, and committed to your relationship.
We all need love and emotional connection in order to be happy and fulfilled; men are no exception. Many cultural myths and stereotypes would have us believe that men are emotionally insensitive, and driven by their sexual urges alone.
But the truth is that we men need intimacy, love and affection just as much as women do. A good man is aware of this, and lives his life accordingly. He knows that an emotional and spiritual connection is more fulfilling than a one-night stand; that sex is so much more satisfying, more profound and pleasurable when you share a deep bond with your partner. His love and respect for you is more powerful than his sexual urges.
He looks, appropriately and respectfully, but he does not touch. Above all, he goes out of his way to show you that you are his priority; that he loves you, he cares for you, and out of all the beautiful women he sees every day, you are the one that he chooses, the one that he wants, that he is yours and yours alone.
It makes me wonder how much of this is DNA versus social conditioning. And a number of posts claim that looking at women is normal. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. You may unsubscribe at any time. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. When he saw her, a chemical reaction happened in his brain.
Neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin were released, giving him an involuntary surge of pleasure. Part of him wants her, or wonders what it would be like to be with her, in a completely harmless and innocent way. You should be angry at him, or jealous of her, or insecure about yourself or your body. He is unfaithful , or that he is going to cheat on you. Your relationship is doomed. Set Realistic Expectations. Tell Him How You Feel. Set Healthy Boundaries.
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My boyfriend always looks at me and smiles, what does that mean?